What do your questions really say?
The message behind our questions is pretty important. Think about the questions you ask – about your family, your job, your life. Where are they focused?
I was just thinking about a couple of things over the past few days, and it reminded me of the book, “The Question Behind the Question.” It’s a short book, and if you can pick it up, do it! (I actually gave a copy to all of the staff of the youth ministry a few years ago). The main point (at least that I remember) is to think about the focus of your questions – where are they directed? Are they “they” questions or “me” questions. Are they active questions or complaint questions?
So often we focus on the problems rather than being part of the solution. Yes, I know (very well) that sometimes no matter what you try, nothing changes. It’s amazing though, how often we stop before we’ve made legitimate attempts at the solutions. We focus on what “they” won’t do or why “they” are the problem instead of asking what “I” can do to be a part of the solution.
Try it. Next time there’s a problem, think about the focus of your questions. Is it what you want someone else to do, or about what you can do?
And, try to pick up the book if you get a chance. It’s an easy read, and it’s worth it.
